I have to say it's a tough call. From what she said her mother and mother in law to be are quite traditional in their thinking of what a proper wedding should be and consist of... Maybe as an alternative to the stripe as it is so graphic, another type of pattern for the black and white cloth? I'm loving Ikat's right now, so I know totally untraditional, but fun... Then maybe instead of red, doing a pale lilac and deeper purple tones... I love the really dark purple calla lilies that almost look black, mixed only with the lighter purple variations for the center?
My thinking may be totally out in left field, and Preston Bailey would probably kill me, but I'm not a wedding planner... I can't even imagine what you girls have to go through... So glad I got my man and got hitched in our jeans and baseball caps. God Bless